The Myth of Productivity and the Shame it Puts on the ADHD Mind
If you or someone you know has an ADHD mind, you’re in for a liberating read. Today, let’s discuss ADHD, the elusive concept of productivity and the uninvited guest it brings along – shame. Let’s explore how we can embrace ADHD with warmth and compassion, while shedding light on the weight of shame that often accompanies it.
“I’m late (feels guilty)… Why is everyone else able to do life?… Why am I such a failure?… What is wrong with me?… I can’t do this!”
Sound familiar?
We hear this several times, from our family, colleagues, friends, and maybe from our own mind on a bad day too. It’s pretty universal. But, for the ADHD mind one insignificant error kicks the bruise left by numerous, similar mistakes made over the course of a lifetime, carrying with it a wall of shame built by a lifetime of criticism and self-blame.
This shame is so unbearable for them that they tend to turn people away, turn off the world… and worse their brains.
Missing deadlines or struggling with focus often can ignite a shame spiral that often diminishes self-worth. It is essential to remember that our worth isn’t determined by checkboxes and to-do-lists. The cycle of shame can be broken with self-compassion and a shift in perspective.
Facing the Problem, Embracing ADHD
Rewriting the Narrative and Breaking the Myth of Productivity
Kindness as a Superpower: Cultivating Self-Compassion
Community and Connection: You’re Not Alone
Here’s a heartwarming truth: you are not alone on this path. Many other people are navigating the same difficulties, dealing with the same challenges, and struggling with the same humiliation. Find places where you can grow, learn, and share with others. Connection is an effective remedy for shame.
Breaking Free: Redefining Success on Your Terms
Self-worth and value are not even “real” things. They are just concepts, thought essentially.
Shame No More
If the weight of shame becomes too heavy, don’t be afraid to enlist help, whether it’s from a therapist, a friend, or your spouse. Having people in your team who “get it” are looking out for you can work wonders. Begin by reaching to us, Rising Perspective Counseling. We are here ready to help you untangle the threads of shame and equip you with strategies to thrive in a world that often misunderstands our minds.
Also, don’t let your location hold you back! Many therapists conduct video or phone sessions, and online support groups can give you a sense of community wherever you go.
“You always get to choose your thoughts. You can choose worthiness no matter what happens.”
If the weight of shame becomes too heavy, don’t be afraid to enlist help, whether it’s from a therapist, a friend, or your spouse. Having people in your team who “get it” are looking out for you can work wonders. Begin by reaching to us, Rising Perspective Counseling. We are here ready to help you untangle the threads of shame and equip you with strategies to thrive in a world that often misunderstands our minds.
Also, don’t let your location hold you back! Many therapists conduct video or phone sessions, and online support groups can give you a sense of community wherever you go.
